Friday Fight 168: Failing ≠ Failure

Every Friday, when I wake and pray, God places something on my heart to help me fight darkness beginning in our minds. Today is FF168.

When we think of the word failure, what experiences come to mind? It could be a failed test, a college course, or something more life-changing like losing a job or a failed marriage. The problem with the word failure is our perceived definition and dependence on our experience being self-created. Webster defines failure as a lack of success. Regardless of our personal definition, is it truly how God sees us? Let's look at how we can change our definition by letting go of our perceived failures and embracing success from a Christian perspective.

Failing ≠ Failure:

The sad reality of the word failure is its vague definition and diluted application to multiple areas of our lives. Sure, if we inadequately study for a test, we fail, but that may be just the beginning of how we attach our actions to our identity. It begins with the simplicity of inadequately hydrating or our inability to return a text or phone call; then suddenly, we have failed as a parent; where does it end? What are we inviting into our souls by overusing the word failure? It is one thing to fail at something regarding the definitions of our shortcomings, but are we allowing this false perception to change how we view ourselves or others? To say that we have failed at something means we can try again. If that is impossible, we give it to God and move forward. What incredible freedom to envision God holding onto us. Psalm 37:23-24 states “The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.”

How often do we unknowingly transition from the verb failing, which describes an action, to the adjective failure, which now describes ourselves or someone else? We need to be mindful that revisiting areas that lack success can lead to attaching a label that is not spiritually healthy. Yes, moral failure is a sin we must address with God, but Scripture does not state that we should continually punish ourselves or others when poor decisions are made. It's crucial to remember that God's forgiveness is not the only forgiveness we need. We must also learn to forgive ourselves, taking responsibility for our spiritual growth and healing. This self-forgiveness is a powerful step in our journey.

Instead of dwelling on areas where we have not been successful, let's counter this with Scripture and strive to please God. Doing so will liberate us from the shame and potential self-labeling that our perceived failures bring. First and foremost, walking according to who we are as children of God and displaying the fruits of the spirit is crucial to growing His kingdom. Understanding the price paid at Calvary allows us to extend forgiveness, a powerful tool that can transform lives and relationships. Too often, we see our lives as unsuccessful in man's eyes, but we must remember that God's forgiveness and grace define our success, offering us hope and encouragement in our journey.

There is no failure with God; maintaining our presence with Him will enable us to celebrate eternal successes, not carnal failures. This reassurance and hope in our spiritual journey is a testament to God's grace and our commitment to Him. It's a reminder that our journey is not defined by temporary setbacks, but by the eternal victories we will celebrate with God.

Pastor Shannon

NewLife Church